Comments on: My Invisible Partner http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/ I'm not together, but I'm getting there Sat, 22 Nov 2008 23:48:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: Brian http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-28216 Brian Fri, 21 Dec 2007 23:21:39 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-28216 @ Jamie: Sounds like you both have great and supportive families. That is truly something to be thankful for. @ MBMQ: Drool away, girlfriend! :D @ Jamie: Sounds like you both have great and supportive families. That is truly something to be thankful for.

@ MBMQ: Drool away, girlfriend! :D

]]> By: moonbeammcqueen http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-28109 moonbeammcqueen Fri, 21 Dec 2007 01:23:29 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-28109 It's so weird to me that people can't just be loving. Why does that judgmental crap creep into everything? It tells a lot about the sender's heart and mind, I think. Oh, and Brian, it you do decide to send that card next year, please let me know so I can give you my address. Just know that I'll be drooling over your boyfriend. It’s so weird to me that people can’t just be loving. Why does that judgmental crap creep into everything? It tells a lot about the sender’s heart and mind, I think.

Oh, and Brian, it you do decide to send that card next year, please let me know so I can give you my address. Just know that I’ll be drooling over your boyfriend.

]]> By: Jamie http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-28046 Jamie Thu, 20 Dec 2007 13:56:19 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-28046 Who said you could post my picture? lol I only have this problem with my 84 year old grandmother, and I think she just forgets, really. Usually the envelopes from the rest of our families are addressed to one or the other of us, but the cards are always to both. Last night, for example, we received one from Norm's aunt addressed to him, but inside the card itself it said "Merry X-Mas Jamie and Norm, Love Aunt XXXX." My name was first! Sometimes it just takes time on their part, sometimes it'll never happen. I'm thankful for the love we have and get in return from both of our families. That said, Brian, you are hereby <a href="http://imustbedreaming.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/christmas-meme-ories/" rel="nofollow">TAGGED. </a> Who said you could post my picture? lol

I only have this problem with my 84 year old grandmother, and I think she just forgets, really.

Usually the envelopes from the rest of our families are addressed to one or the other of us, but the cards are always to both. Last night, for example, we received one from Norm’s aunt addressed to him, but inside the card itself it said “Merry X-Mas Jamie and Norm, Love Aunt XXXX.” My name was first! Sometimes it just takes time on their part, sometimes it’ll never happen. I’m thankful for the love we have and get in return from both of our families.

That said, Brian, you are hereby TAGGED.

]]> By: Brian http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27949 Brian Wed, 19 Dec 2007 16:35:15 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27949 @ Alyson: They handle those the same way. :) @ Stephanie: I know exactly what you mean. My partner often feels uncomfortable when we're around members of my family. @ Wendy: That is really sad. I can't imagine what some people are thinking, but I believe in karma, so they had better watch out. @ Alyson: They handle those the same way. :)

@ Stephanie: I know exactly what you mean. My partner often feels uncomfortable when we’re around members of my family.

@ Wendy: That is really sad. I can’t imagine what some people are thinking, but I believe in karma, so they had better watch out.

]]> By: Wendy http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27948 Wendy Wed, 19 Dec 2007 16:23:25 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27948 It's not just gay couples who fall victim to this passive-aggressive rudeness. I'm almost always left off the envelope when family and some friends send cards to Buck ... I'm just invisible to them. Both our mothers died around the same time, and while Buck received many cards of condolence from these people, I didn't receive a single card. As the invisible one in this relationship, I can tell you it's painful to be left out. It makes me feel really, really bad and I can't help but wonder why they can't make the simple, loving gesture of putting my name on the card? Truthfully, I get kind of weepy over it. It’s not just gay couples who fall victim to this passive-aggressive rudeness. I’m almost always left off the envelope when family and some friends send cards to Buck … I’m just invisible to them. Both our mothers died around the same time, and while Buck received many cards of condolence from these people, I didn’t receive a single card. As the invisible one in this relationship, I can tell you it’s painful to be left out. It makes me feel really, really bad and I can’t help but wonder why they can’t make the simple, loving gesture of putting my name on the card? Truthfully, I get kind of weepy over it.

]]> By: Stephanie http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27945 Stephanie Wed, 19 Dec 2007 15:36:49 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27945 I understand your frustration. My family is very accepting of my relationship but my girlfriend's parents would rather just ignore the fact that I even exist. It's like the pink elephant in the room-- they will not speak to me unless I speak first and anything that they have to say in response is usually one syllable. But I digress... I hope you both have a wonderful Christmas. I understand your frustration. My family is very accepting of my relationship but my girlfriend’s parents would rather just ignore the fact that I even exist. It’s like the pink elephant in the room– they will not speak to me unless I speak first and anything that they have to say in response is usually one syllable. But I digress… I hope you both have a wonderful Christmas.

]]> By: Alyson http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27943 Alyson Wed, 19 Dec 2007 15:27:53 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27943 Gotcha.......... That is a good way to address mail. I have the same debate for couples that are living together, but not married. Gotcha……….

That is a good way to address mail. I have the same debate for couples that are living together, but not married.

]]> By: Brian http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27938 Brian Wed, 19 Dec 2007 15:14:22 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27938 @ Alyson: It's not the outside that bothers me so badly. It's when the inside only says "Brian,". I like the way our church addresses mail to gay couples. They simply put "The LastName/LastName Family". ;) @ Alyson: It’s not the outside that bothers me so badly. It’s when the inside only says “Brian,”.

I like the way our church addresses mail to gay couples. They simply put “The LastName/LastName Family”. ;)

]]> By: Alyson http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27937 Alyson Wed, 19 Dec 2007 15:11:00 +0000 http://inrepair.net/2007/12/19/my-invisible-partner/#comment-27937 I want one of those cards! LOL. I'm glad you posted this. When I mail your card I always debate if I should address the outside to both of you or not. I always end up addressing it to you both, (at least I think I do). It's not that I don't want you both to have a great Christmas, I just didn't want to out you to the mailman against your wishes. I want one of those cards! LOL.

I’m glad you posted this. When I mail your card I always debate if I should address the outside to both of you or not. I always end up addressing it to you both, (at least I think I do). It’s not that I don’t want you both to have a great Christmas, I just didn’t want to out you to the mailman against your wishes.

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